Tuesday, April 21, 2009

One Flesh

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24

I think when some women read this verse they think that only the man is suppose to leave his mother and father. And the woman thinks they are suppose to still cleave to her mother and father. I know I'm not married, but when I do get married I pray that God will bless me with a wonder father-in-law and mother-in-law that I can consider like my parents.

I will not lie, recently I have been battling with the fact that my sister-in-law doesn't want anything to do with our family. When she does I feel like she is doing it just to make an appearance. She won't let us have anything to do with her kids (noticed I put her). I haven't seen them seen Christmas. She would put the blame on me, but I think she didn't want us to come to the birthday party she had scheduled and she invited us at the last minute. I had already had babysitting plans so I couldn't go. Please pray for my family.

Here is my advice to women out there. When you get married make sure you love your husband's family. If you don't then don't marry him. That may sound mean, but I think you should get along with their family. Same goes for a man and his wife's family. When you have children try to always share the children with both sides of the family.

God intended marriage to be a man and woman being married and being one flesh. And if you don't respect your spouse's family then you are not one flesh. I hope that this will be helpful to someone. Also remember ladies the man is the head of household, but remember men you are not suppose to be overbearing. As it says in the Bible...

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Ephesians 5:25

You should love your wives like Christ loves the church. Christ is not overbearing, a husband job is not to be go get this or that and wait on me hand and foot. Marriage is to be helpmates to one another. I don't think men should ask you to wait on them hand and foot, but in some ways I think the woman should want to do things for their husbands out of their love for them. I don't think a man should say it's my money not yours, because when you get married it is your money, you both share it. I do think if a woman is spending it on things that doesn't need to be bought then he has that right to stand and say quit spending it in foolish ways. I also know some men that spends money in foolish ways and I believe the woman should take the stand. That is something my parents have never argued about. My dad has always been willing to say if you want that dress get it, but my mom has been smart to know that sometimes the money should be used for other things. Well I don't know how I got to this point, but marriage is not all about you. In marriage there is no room to be selfish.

1 comment:

Marcy said...

Amen, Starla! You're more wise about marriage than most people who are married nowadays.

There is no room for selfishness in a marriage, and unfortunately, too many young people are selfish these days.